Posts Tagged ‘Christians online’

14Feb

37 ways to show love to your spouse online

Happy Valentine's Day!

Jesus said, “A man planted a vineyard and set a hedge around it.” ~ Mark 12:1

By Toni Birdsong
We live on a broken planet; in a culture increasingly underwhelmed by vows, divorce and extramarital affairs—so Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to give a shout out to Love—God’s love for us, ours for Him, and for the gift and covenant of marriage.

As Christians living in a digital world we need to get intentional about honoring the covenant of marriage—for ourselves—and for a mislead world looking on. A Christ-centered marriage puts a “no trespassing” sign in the enemy’s face and tells everyone around you that values such as “marriage, fidelity, honor, respect, family, faith, and love” will never go out of fashion in your home.


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16Jan

7 wise ways to speak into and guide your teen’s digital life

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This is the third and last post in a series on parents, teens, and Facebook.

By Toni Birdsong
It takes courage to be a parent in this digital age. However, we often forget it takes more courage to be a teen.

Think back to junior high and high school. Think about the peer pressure, the competition, the cliques, and the conflicts. Now, magnify that. Imagine carrying that weight of the hallways home with you every single day.

That’s what kids today have to do. As digital natives who have grown up with mobile devices and social networks, teens must communicate and “get through” social jungles we never dreamed of.


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9Jan

part 2: what every Christian parent needs to know about Facebook

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whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. ~Phil. 4:8


This is the second in a three-part series on parents, teens, and Facebook.

By Toni Birdsong
This week we’re going to dive deeper into some savvy ways you as a parent can stay ahead of the cyber curve and help your teens enjoy the upsides of Facebook and avoid (or manage) the downsides.

The goal of this series isn’t to teach you how to spy on your teen or question every move he or she makes. The goal is to encourage you as a parent to simply get involved and equip your teen to live a godly, honorable and safe life online. Once you have a sound foundation of teaching with your teen—some of these suggestions may not apply. Every family and every circumstance will differ.

12 Facebook Tips for Christian Parents

1. Communication is key. Talk openly and often about the privilege and responsibility that comes with using Facebook (and being online) and the consequences of breaking the rules. Remember, Rules without Relationship = Rebellion. The Facebook conversation is an ongoing one—not a one-time thing, which makes Facebook an opportunity to build a deeper relationship with your teen so go for it!


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4Jan

What Christian Parents Need to Know About Facebook


First in a three-part series on parents, teens, and Facebook.

by Toni Birdsong
One of the most common questions I get asked by parents is if it’s okay to let their son or daughter have a Facebook page. The first thing I do is gage where they are emotionally with social media. Then I listen. To their concerns. To their hearts. It’s a really big deal. Facebook has added an unexpected—and sometimes overwhelming—dimension to parenting today.

The good news is that God has given us as parents everything we need to lead these beautiful, expressive, swift-moving digital natives He’s entrusted to our care.

To clarify, this series is written to Christian parents in general and does not address the exceptions that exist in every family.

In general my answer to the Facebook question is yes. You should let your teen have a Facebook page if and only if you intend to monitor it—consistently. For teens today, Facebook is a vital connection channel where life, friendship, art, memories, music, and conversation intersect hourly—whether parents agree with that, or even like it.

That doesn’t mean that Facebook is a free-for-all graffiti wall for kids to write or post anything they feel like. Proverb’s directive to Christian parents to “Train up a child in the way he should go” extends to the digital hallways and hangouts.


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22Dec

Why I refuse to say ‘Merry Christmas’

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For a child will be born to us, a son will be given to us; And the government will rest on His shoulders; And His name will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Eternal Father, Prince of Peace. ~Isaiah 9:6

by Toni Birdsong
Hey, don’t be hating.  It’s personal. I’ve decided not to say “Merry Christmas” this year. Why? Simply put: It just doesn’t get the job done.

Think about it. “Merry Christmas” doesn’t even come close to covering the holiness and love contained in God Almighty’s most compassionate act toward mankind. It fails to encompass the outrageous grace of God sending His son to earth to teach self-righteous, grab-happy men and women like you and I how to live and love . . . on heaven’s terms.

Merry Christmas. Such ordinary words fail to carry the extraordinary story of the life and sacrifice that lay ahead for the baby king born in a manger that night. Nor do they begin to unlock, bust open, and shake loose the chains that bind our souls—only that baby could do that.


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8Dec

5 reasons Christians should be blogging

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by Toni Birdsong
You may not own a home or even your own car. But if you’ve got a blog today, you’re sitting on a very valuable piece of property. With the trust in traditional media declining and trust in social media channels on the rise, bloggers today have undisputed influence. This moment in time is especially true for Christians who are brand advocates for history’s most powerful message—the gospel.

Think about it. Some blogs get more visits each day than churches get on Sunday, giving some bloggers more influence than some pastors. While that’s certainly not the intended goal, it is the reality.


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11Oct

Are you leading technology in your family or is it leading you?

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I never thought as deeply about King David until I became the mother of a teenager. As a parent raising kids in a wired world, I can relate to David—only the Goliath I’m looking at is technology. I’m not as seasoned or as certain as I thought I would be at this point in my parenting career. In fact, some days, it’s as if someone changed out the script I thought I had aced then pushed me out on to the stage to perform anyway.

I sometimes wonder: Am I really anointed? Can I really take this giant?


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19Jul

5 questions Christians should ask themselves before logging on

Nations will come to your Light, and kings to the brightness of your dawn. - Isaiah 60:3

 

Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. ~John 14:12

by Toni Birdsong
We are God’s beloved. We are heaven’s people; the blood-bought, Calvary claimed sons and daughters of the Most High King. We are the rescued ones empowered by the Holy Spirit to cover even greater earthly ground for the gospel than Christ himself.

But do we really get what that means? Better yet: Do believe it? If so, we should log online each day with the untamable expectation that through our words, ideas, and interactions, Jesus Christ will be seen. When we truly believe and live out Jesus’ words in John 14:12, then The Great Commission stops being an ideal and becomes a personal, burning, reachable charge.

5 questions to consider before you log on today:


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7Jul

avoiding Christianese: how to connect to non-believers online

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“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw

by Toni Birdsong
Christianese. It’s easy to fall into and entirely logical for a Christian—after all, it’s our cultural code; the mother tongue of heaven. Still, it can become a colossal stumbling block if you are interested in sharing your faith online.

Simply defined, Christianese is the jargon, terminology, and exclusive language used by Christians that usually only Christians can understand. Christianese isn’t a bad thing (despite the jokes around it)—in fact it’s a positive that we share this powerful fellowship.

But when communicating with non-believers (and anyone else), speaking Christianese can sink a conversation quickly. Use it enough and you’ll find yourself on the outside of the influence circle looking in, which can put a real damper on The Great Commission.


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5Jul

10 powerful ways to make digital amends

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Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. ~Paul Boese

 

 

 

by Toni Birdsong
Twenty five years is a long time to wait for an apology. Still, the moment went something like this thanks to our ability to send anyone, anywhere a private Facebook message:

Me: Dear Kelly, I certainly wouldn’t blame you if cuss me out, block me, or never even respond to this message. The way I treated you in high school haunts me to this day. You didn’t deserve any of it. The real truth? You were prettier than me, smarter, and basically—everything I wasn’t. I was jealous and I made your life hell because of it. I’m so ashamed of the hurt I caused you. Is there any way you would even consider forgiving me?


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